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Picture-perfect views, towering skylines and a spectacular sunset — a rooftop venue is an amazing option. That said, pulling off a beautiful rooftop ceremony comes with some serious wedding planning logistical know-how.
1. Have a Backup Plan
This is the most crucial piece to creating a beautiful rooftop wedding. Beyond the rooftop with perfect panoramic views, look for a space with a combination of indoor and outdoor spaces. It’ll make planning much easier, give you options for your decor and provide you with a plan B in case of inclement weather.
2. Plan For Wind
Rain is the obvious concern, but don’t forget about wind! It’s best to expect that there will be wind on the rooftop, so think about that when choosing decor. Also make sure that all of your paper elements can be anchored down easily in case the wind picks up. Even better: Move any delicate details away from the gusty zones and into nearby hallways or corridors off of the rooftop.
3. Invest In Great Lighting
Sunset is a fantastic time for a rooftop ceremony because it creates a stunning, romantic glow — so time your wedding around that time if you can. Once the sun goes down, you’ll obviously need to supplement the light. One idea is to enhance that sunset glow with candles and soft colored lighting, which will also work double duty into the evening. If the cocktail hour or part of the reception will be outdoors, look into having a lighting company bring in colorful LED lights and custom lighting .
4. Plan For Extra Coordination Time
Many rooftop venues were constructed years (if not decades) ago and generally speaking, the older the building, the more difficult to access. Add to that, most rooftop venues are in urban areas, often on a small and crowded streets. During your site tour, ask about where the staff will load and unload. You very well may have to plan on building in several extra hours on the day of the wedding for the rental company, florist and other vendors to unload and access your rooftop venue.
5. Go Easy On The Extra Decor
Your backdrop is the view, so feel free to keep the extra decor to a minimum so that you don’t detract from the beautiful surroundings. Think small and fresh — like florals at the base of a huppah or small arrangements on your guest book table — to add just the right amount of elegance and glamour.
6. Rent Weather-Proof Furniture
Go for furniture made of leather or synthetic material that cannot be damaged by moisture. For the cocktail hour, you might even want to go for illuminated furniture. It creates a fun, club-like atmosphere while also providing just the right amount of light for guests to mingle.
7. Have a Back Up Plan
Always always always have a backup plan in case the weather turns. The best case scenario is to find a rooftop venue with an adjoining indoor room. Not only will a nearby indoor room serve as your backup-site, it can make for a nice transition — allowing guests to start outside, and then proceed into an elaborately decorated ballroom.
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Is it bad luck for bride and groom to see each other before the wedding?
This tradition began during the time when arranged marriages were custom. The betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families (romantic, huh?), and a father would have been pleased for his daughter to marry a man from a rich, land-owning family. But he also feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding and thought she wasn’t attractive, he’d call off the wedding, casting shame onto the bride and her family. Therefore, it became tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind. And that veil the bride wears? Its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out of the transaction.
Today: Although arranged marriages are no longer common, most brides still don’t want their groom to see them all done up before the wedding. Many believe it makes the day more exciting and memorable. However, some couples feel they’ll be more relaxed if they see each other for just a few minutes before the ceremony. The added bonus is that you can take your formal pictures pre-ceremony when everyone is freshly done-up.
It’s completely up to you and your groom. Talk about it before the big day arrives and find out what makes the most sense for you.
I think that having a dog over the years has made me a much person.
Here are 10 lessons dogs have taught me about making marriage-or any kind of committed relationship-work.
1. Forgive mistakes. No matter what we humans do-scoot our dogs from comfortable seats in front of the television or go on walks or jogs without them when the weather is too hot or cold-dogs never hold a grudge. They forgive us our failings and don’t dwell on our wrongs.
2. Celebrate time together. How wonderful is it to come home to someone who’s always thrilled to see you? Whether we left the house five hours ago or five minutes ago, canine companions are over-the-moon thrilled to be reunited with us. In today’s world of constant “busy-ness,” pausing to celebrate the entrance of a loved one doesn’t always happen. That common complacency makes the act even more powerful.
3. Prioritize exercise. We live in a stressful world. Exercise is a great way to fight back against tension in our lives and also to have meaningful time with loved ones away from computers, phones and other distractions. I think most dogs would agree that we would all be better off if we spent more time together on walks.
4. Embrace the power of silence. Listening is hard work. Many of us (myself included) spend more time waiting for a turn to speak than paying attention to what our partners are telling us. Our dogs are never waiting to talk. They simply cock their heads and try their best to understand our message.
5. Show love in big and small ways. From laying their heads on our laps while we watch a movie to barking wildly and running in circles when we take them to the park, dogs let us know we are loved every single day.
6. Be yourself. In the words of the great sage RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how are you gonna love somebody else?” Dogs have no interest in being anyone but themselves. I think this is why they can show affection so easily. They don’t want to impress. They just want to love.
7. Don’t forget to have fun. I have never met a dog who was too busy to have fun, but I have met plenty of people who are. (And at times, I’ve been one.) Life is too short not to play and feel good with those we care about.
8. Be loyal. Dogs don’t complain to their friends when we leave dirty dishes in the sink, gain a few pounds or show up late for an evening walk. I’ve never seen a dog make someone look bad.
9. Treat your loved ones even better than they deserve. We should all aspire to be the types of people our dogs think we are. The boost I get from my dog’s adoration reminds me to give that gift to others.
10. Give each other some space. My dog doesn’t understand some of my hobbies, like reading. I don’t grasp the joy he gets from chasing birds, or rolling over a dead bug. Still, we get along splendidly. In fact, having time for each of us to pursue our individual hobbies keeps us happy and well balanced. After all, everyone needs some personal space from time to time.
A little extra work and attention goes a long way toward making a relationship stronger. So thanks to all the dogs out there for setting a great example and helping us humans be better partners, spouses, and people!
The thirteen colors used in a Handfasting Ceremony each have a specific meaning.
I write about it here.
Who ever knew that there was so much symbolism in tying the knot?
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Yesterday I had a sweet experience.
I went to Hilton Head to see Scott and Vanessa and their families. This was a reunion, of sorts. I had married Scott and Vanessa two years ago this week.
On this occasion I was able to meet their son, Michael Grayson.
We had a very special celebration of a baby blessing.
I love keeping in touch with my couples and their families!