(?? – April 15, 2016)
It was a normal work day for me in 2005. I received a call from Michelle asking me to go to Parker’s to check on this dog. I arrived at Parker’s some 15 minutes later to see this mange-covered dog who was skin and bones. She was a walking skeleton who was begging food scraps.
I tried to call her, but she would not come. I went inside and bought a pack of beef jerky. That did the trick. She reluctantly got into my car, and I took her to the vet.
We named her “Sebastian”, thinking she was a boy. Her hind quarters were so inflamed that she appeared to me male. We later found out she was female, and Kylee named her “Daisy”.
After her return from the vet, we took her home. With the help of Ensure she quickly gained weight. She happily adjusted to life in our family. She readily made friends with our other dogs, Gretchen and Sadie. “Blacky”, my father-in-law called her, was a part of the family.
She had such a loving and gentle nature. When Gretchen and Sadie got older and sicker, it was Daisy who would lick and nurture them. Daisy, we found out, knew tricks. She could sit, lay down, shake, and potty. Michelle and I always said, “Whoever had her before us really loved her;” they took the time to train and work with her.
She did, when she was able, have the tendency to run away. As aggravating as that tendency was, I’m grateful for it because that very same tendency would run her to Parkers and into our lives.
To Daisy’s original family: we believe you had young children because she was always loved and was natural around kids/babies. We want you to know that your sweet girl found a good family and a loving home. She lived a great life.
She watched Michelle and me marry. She was with us for Krishelle’s wedding. She watched Kylee and Jacob go through high school and college. She was a comfort as we buried Michelle’s dad and my mom. She was a comfort to us as we lost Gretchen and Sadie.
I remember our road trip to Montgomery. I took her to see my dad, thinking that an older dog would remind him of the benefits of pet ownership. I enjoyed that trip with her as I was “Driving Miss Daisy”.
There was the time that Michelle and I returned from a Jaguar game to find that she had destroyed our garage. There was another time when she didn’t want to be locked out, so she destroyed the back door and siding. After some destroyed door frames we learned that she had a deathly fear of thunderstorms. All of this was rooted in her desire to be with us, with her family, with “the pack”. That was her safety and security.
She would become the senior dog of the house. For Sandy, she was always a reliable bed partner who didn’t mind the “Sandy-cuddle”. For Rita, Daisy was a maternal figure. Rita would stand still while Daisy bathed her with a mother’s care. Maybe that whole time Daisy was licking to see why Rita’s given name of “Marguerita” did not match her taste. Rita would freak out whenever I took Daisy somewhere without the her. Rita will have a rough time dealing with losing Daisy.
For both Sandy and Rita, Daisy was the referee and the one to settle fights. She also was the leader of the nightly dog parade to go potty.
In her last weeks, she would adjust to a move to a new house in a different neighborhood. Always a trooper, she adapted to her new life and surroundings.
Time took a toll on her. Her hair got grayer, her joints got stiffer, and her eyes grew dimmer. She would spend more time sleeping as indicated by her steady snore. But her love of life stayed strong and vibrant.
She taught me with her gentle spirit. She taught me with her sense of adventure. Even with a shock collar and invisible fence, she was the one who’d say “Sometimes chasing the bird is worth the shock!” She has helped me be more gentle, caring, loving, and adventuresome.
Her body was getting old, but she remained young at heart. Right up to the end she was picking up a toy to play tug of war with Rita. She remained interested in toys, squirrels, birds, treats, and “Sunday dinners.” She would still bark at the UPS man.
The vet was there at the beginning of our journey together, and the vet was there at the end. Now there is no more pain in your eyes, and we can give you this one last gift of love. As we brought you to the vet to find you some comfort, you comforted us. Rest easy and at peace.
My sweet Daisy Parker, I love you and I will miss you. As you cross that Rainbow Bridge, please give a big wet kiss to Gretchen and Sadie (and Peanut, whom you’ve not met yet). Tell them all how much we love and miss them!
(?? – April 15, 2016)
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Here is another sample of their music.
Recently, I officiated at a wedding with a great surprise ending. They had a chorus singing spirituals!
Everyone loved it!
Check out this sample.
Diane Dodd, recently highlighted one of my weddings in her blog. This particular wedding was filmed by a film crew for a Japanese film crew for a travel show.
You can see her blog post at
Or if you wish to view the video of my part, here it is–
It was with a heavy heart that I heard of the death of Wayne Dyer this past weekend. I have heard him speak a few times in person, and was looking forward to attending his conference in just nineteen more days in Orlando.
Some of the truths he taught ring true for me.
1. Don’t die with your music still in you. We were each sent here on purpose. Our quest in this life is to find and live from that place.
2. Every problem has a spiritual solution. Those things we call “problems” exist in our minds. When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. And I would further say, when we change the way we look at things, the way things look changes.
3. We can approach life from a place of gratitude. We can start each day saying “Good morning, God” rather than “Good God, morning.” If we choose the first approach our entire experience of the day is different.
4. Live your passion. When we live passionately, the lines between work and play are blurred.
5. As he quoted Chardin, “We are immortal spiritual beings, having a temporary human experience.” This is the truth rather than the other way around.
Thank you, Dr. Dyer. I love you. I will miss you. Until we meet again, Namaste!
When I do weddings throughout Savannah and the surrounding area, I often notice that total strangers will stop and watch. What is it about a wedding that makes total strangers stop and take note?
I believe it is the fact that all of us want to believe in love. We all want to see love in practice. We all believe in the commitment that takes place at a marriage.
What do you think?
The confetti has settled, you’re over the threshhold and married life has officially begun…
1. A post-wedding come-down is kinda normal
The hype and excitement of planning your wedding day is nothing compared to how you’ll feel on the day itself. So needless to say, once the big day is over and you’re back to normality, you might feel a little blue for a while; think the bridal equivalent of January blues. But turn that frown upside down! Yes, your wedding day is over – which means the most exciting part, your life together as husband and wife, has just begun.
2. You’re suddenly going to be in possession of a lot of new things
If you had a gift-list you’ll find your home filled with fancy kitchen gadgets and swanky homeware pieces. What does a trivet even do? You don’t know, but you somehow feel that it will change the way you chop vegetables forever. Bathe in the joy of having lots of shiny, new things. (Not that we’re encouraging you to be materialistic.) BTW – don’t forget to write your thank-you letters!
3. Reliving your wedding day on Facebook = totally normal
It was the best day ever, so it’s only natural you want to keep replaying the highlights over and over. Be savvy; give your guests a hashtag on your wedding day (for example, #AliceAndMitchWedding) so you can see all the photos taken at your celebration (and shared on social media) with a click of your mouse.
4. Mr & Mrs date nights are essential
Just because you’re married, there’s no need to get lax; making an effort to still have quality time is as important as ever.
5. The topic of conversation is going to change rather drastically
Whereas before, people would talk to you non-stop about your wedding plans, the chat will now take a rather different route (from the chapel to the nursery, you might say). You’ll have barely had time to pack away your wedding dress before people start talking to you about babies. Endlessly. Don’t say we didn’t warn you!
Wedding Dilemma: “We Both Feel Strongly (And Differently) About Something.”
Response: Determine If the Potential Joy Will Outweigh the Suspected Pain
One of my brides wrote in sharing her wish to have her mother walk her down the aisle instead of her father who was not all that involved in her life following her parents’ divorce as a young girl. When she told her father she was surprised to learn that this deeply disturbed him. He told her, “I have not been a good father at times. ¦I realize that. But I have always hoped I could walk you down the aisle. While I may not deserve that honor it would mean the world to me. Truthfully, I will feel humiliated in front of my family and friends if I don’t’ walk you down the aisle.”
Here’s a great example of having to make a decision in the face of competing needs and values. This bride asked herself, “Would the joy of having my mother walk me down the aisle outweigh the pain it will cause my father?” When she shared this with her mother she learned that it hadn’t been her mother’s dream to walk her daughter down the aisle. This bride decided that this was an area that she could be flexible with and that the pain it would cause her father was not worth it to her and not something she wanted associated with the most important day of her life.
Marriage is not for getting all of our needs met; it’s for learning how to love and becoming more refined. We learn to give and receive love.
Whenever we have the choice to be RIGHT or be KIND, it is always better to choose to be KIND!