Wedding on television…

Diane Dodd, recently highlighted one of my weddings in her blog. This particular wedding was filmed by a film crew for a Japanese film crew for a travel show. 

You can see her blog post at

Or if you wish to view the video of my part, here it is–

Published in: on September 2, 2015 at 10:57 PM  Leave a Comment  

Dr. Wayne Dyer

It was with a heavy heart that I heard of the death of Wayne Dyer this past weekend. I have heard him speak a few times in person, and was looking forward to attending his conference in just nineteen more days in Orlando. 

Some of the truths he taught ring true for me. 

1. Don’t die with your music still in you. We were each sent here on purpose. Our quest in this life is to find and live from that place. 

2. Every problem has a spiritual solution. Those things we call “problems” exist in our minds. When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. And I would further say, when we change the way we look at things, the way things look changes. 

3. We can approach life from a place of gratitude. We can start each day saying “Good morning, God” rather than “Good God, morning.”  If we choose the first approach our entire experience of the day is different. 

4. Live your passion. When we live passionately, the lines between work and play are blurred. 

5. As he quoted Chardin, “We are immortal spiritual beings, having a temporary human experience.”  This is the truth rather than the other way around. 

Thank you, Dr. Dyer. I love you. I will miss you. Until we meet again, Namaste!



Published in: on August 31, 2015 at 9:35 PM  Leave a Comment  

Wedding hope…

When I do weddings throughout Savannah and the surrounding area, I often notice that total strangers will stop and watch. What is it about a wedding that makes total strangers stop and take note?

I believe it is the fact that all of us want to believe in love. We all want to see love in practice. We all believe in the commitment that takes place at a marriage.

What do you think?

Published in: on October 27, 2014 at 7:04 PM  Leave a Comment  

Five Things All Newlyweds Should Know…

The confetti has settled, you’re over the threshhold and married life has officially begun…

1. A post-wedding come-down is kinda normal

The hype and excitement of planning your wedding day is nothing compared to how you’ll feel on the day itself. So needless to say, once the big day is over and you’re back to normality, you might feel a little blue for a while; think the bridal equivalent of January blues. But turn that frown upside down! Yes, your wedding day is over – which means the most exciting part, your life together as husband and wife, has just begun.

2. You’re suddenly going to be in possession of a lot of new things

If you had a gift-list you’ll find your home filled with fancy kitchen gadgets and swanky homeware pieces. What does a trivet even do? You don’t know, but you somehow feel that it will change the way you chop vegetables forever. Bathe in the joy of having lots of shiny, new things. (Not that we’re encouraging you to be materialistic.) BTW – don’t forget to write your thank-you letters!

3. Reliving your wedding day on Facebook = totally normal

It was the best day ever, so it’s only natural you want to keep replaying the highlights over and over. Be savvy; give your guests a hashtag on your wedding day (for example, #AliceAndMitchWedding) so you can see all the photos taken at your celebration (and shared on social media) with a click of your mouse.

4. Mr & Mrs date nights are essential

Just because you’re married, there’s no need to get lax; making an effort to still have quality time is as important as ever.

5. The topic of conversation is going to change rather drastically

Whereas before, people would talk to you non-stop about your wedding plans, the chat will now take a rather different route (from the chapel to the nursery, you might say). You’ll have barely had time to pack away your wedding dress before people start talking to you about babies. Endlessly. Don’t say we didn’t warn you!

Published in: on July 16, 2014 at 10:23 PM  Leave a Comment  

Best Movie for Date Night?

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Wedding Dilemma Solved!


Wedding Dilemma: “We Both Feel Strongly (And Differently) About Something.”
Response: Determine If the Potential Joy Will Outweigh the Suspected Pain

One of my brides wrote in sharing her wish to have her mother walk her down the aisle instead of her father who was not all that involved in her life following her parents’ divorce as a young girl. When she told her father she was surprised to learn that this deeply disturbed him. He told her, “I have not been a good father at times. ¦I realize that. But I have always hoped I could walk you down the aisle. While I may not deserve that honor it would mean the world to me. Truthfully, I will feel humiliated in front of my family and friends if I don’t’ walk you down the aisle.”

Here’s a great example of having to make a decision in the face of competing needs and values. This bride asked herself, “Would the joy of having my mother walk me down the aisle outweigh the pain it will cause my father?” When she shared this with her mother she learned that it hadn’t been her mother’s dream to walk her daughter down the aisle. This bride decided that this was an area that she could be flexible with and that the pain it would cause her father was not worth it to her and not something she wanted associated with the most important day of her life.

Marriage is not for getting all of our needs met; it’s for learning how to love and becoming more refined. We learn to give and receive love.

Whenever we have the choice to be RIGHT or be KIND, it is always better to choose to be KIND!

Published in: on April 30, 2014 at 7:49 PM  Leave a Comment  

Hope Springs Eternal…

ImageHave you ever noticed how people, even if they are rushing by, will stop and take a moment to watch a wedding of strangers?  Why is that?

I believe that even in this cynical age, where so many things are disposable, we all yearn for the permanent commitment.  The joys of young love and the hope of a future together as well as the future of a committed love, make weddings into glorious things.

First, when we experience the vows of a new couple, it gives us an opportunity to reflect on our own commitments and relationships.  How have we done with our spouse since our marriage?  Do we still work to nurture and take care of that relationship?

Second, we support the newly married by our example.  They are taking an important step in getting married.  After the party is over and everyone has gone home, will we continue to support them in their relationship and commitment?

Weddings are, indeed, glorious things where hope springs eternal.  

To all those planning a wedding or nurturing a past wedding, happy hoping!


Published in: on March 10, 2014 at 7:25 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Eloping: Will You Avoid Family Drama or Stir It Up?


So you’re engaged and thinking of eloping!  Congratulations on finding your life mate.  As you well know there are a number of reasons to elope:

  1.  Need to get married fast

    2.   Want to avoid family drama

    3.   Want to save money

    4.   No interest or time in planning a wedding

    5.   There aren’t enough people in your life to make it worth a wedding ceremony


While I believe weddings are a great way to gather family, friends, and community to celebrate a union, we would never tell anyone to not elope; some of my most beautiful weddings have been the simplest. 

 On the other hand, often couples who decide to elope meet reactions and emotions they are unprepared for:






Sometimes to appease the negative feelings, couples have a wedding reception at a later date to gather loved ones.  But they are shocked when a simple reception turns into the wedding drama and stress they were trying to avoid.  All the emotions people have about showing off the new member of the family, about their son or daughter tying the knot, or about their lack of control over your decision to elope may result in madness around the reception.

 Whatever the reason you chose to elope, trust that you are not escaping family drama.  It may show up just before you elope, at the first major family birthday or holiday after your elopement, or at your one year anniversary.  Rarely do families accept a new “in-law” without complex emotions and attitudes.

Wedding planning, on the other hand, is often an extended view of the first years of marriage where every stakeholder in your life comes out to express his/her opinion about you and your relationship, about everyone in the extended clan, and about your life decisions.  By eloping you may be forcing those bottled emotions to spring forth in surprising ways.  Be prepared!  While some people make horrible mistakes in wedding planning that haunt them for years into their marriage (attacking in laws during a wedding planning meltdown moment, for example), the choice to elope may be an equally dramatic “mistake” in the eyes of your family.

All of this is worth consideration!


Published in: on March 3, 2014 at 6:40 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Useful Quotations on Love and Marriage…


Falling in Love:

     “Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale.” —Unknown Author

    “And I knew exactly how old Walt Disney’s Cinderella felt when she found her prince.” —Elizabeth Young

    “When you look for the right person, you always end up with the wrong one. But when you just sit by the corner and wait, he comes along and shares the corner with you.” —Unknown Author

    “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” —When Harry Met Sally

    “I’m feeling alive and with every breath that I take, I feel like I’ve won. You’re my key to survival.” —Secondhand Serenade

    “You know when you have found your prince because you not only have a smile on your face, but in your heart as well.” —Unknown Author

    “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” —Judy Garland

    “For you see, each day I love you more 
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” —Rosemonde Gerard


What is Love?


    “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” —Dr. Seuss

    “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” —Lao Tzu

    “When I sleep, I dream of you, and when I wake, I long to hold you in my arms. If anything, our time apart has only made me more certain that I want to spend my nights by your side, and my days with your heart.” —Nights in Rodanthe

    “Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.” —Leo Buscaglia

    “I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.” —Roy Croft

    “To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” —Robert Brault

    “A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you.” —Unknown Author

    “You will find, as you look back upon your life, that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.” —Henry Drummond

    “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” —Maya Angelou

    “Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” —Franklin P. Jones

    “In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.” —Mignon McLaughlin

    “It is love that makes impossible possible.” —Indian Proverb

    “Walking with your hands in mine and mine in yours, that’s exactly where I want to be always.” —Fawn Weaver

    “In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.” —Janos Arnay

    “Two souls with but a single thought; two hearts that beat as one.” —Friedrich Halm


The Meaning of Marriage:


    “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” —Mignon McLaughlin

    “The groom always smiles proudly because he’s convinced he’s accomplished something quite wonderful. The bride smiles because she’s been able to convince him of it.” —Judith McNaught

    “You don’t marry the person you can live with … you marry the person you can’t live without.” —Unknown Author

    “Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy, you must have somebody to divide it with.” —Mark Twain

    “Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that’s a real treat.” —JoAnne Woodward

    “Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect.” —Unknown Author

    “You make me happier than I ever thought I could be, and if you let me, I will spend the rest of my life trying to make you feel the same way.” —Friends

    “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life — to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting? —George Eliot

    “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” —Robert Quillen

    “A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” —Pearl S. Buck

    “The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.” —Fawn Weaver

    “The highest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage.” —William Lyon Phelps


The Ups and Downs of Marriage:


    “In a marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, and enabler rather than a reformer.” —Unknown Author

    “The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make on your wedding day, and over and over again and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband…” —Barbara De Angelis

    “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” —Henry Ford

    “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” —Emily Brönte

    “Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be.” —Robert Browning

    “When the darkness rolls in, I’ll be there through thick and thin.” —Hilary Duff

    “I don’t know where I’d be without you here with me. Life with you makes perfect sense. You’re my best friend.” —Tim McGraw

    “Because today, when I look into your eyes, my love for you only grows. It’s even stronger now. My love will never waver. And this I vow to you, today, and always and forever.” —One Tree Hill

    “There is no such thing as a perfect man or a perfect marriage. But the one I have is perfect for me.” —Fawn Weaver

    “Remember, we all stumble; every one of us. That is why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” —Emily Kimbrough

    “The beauty of marriage is not always seen from the very beginning…but rather as love grows and develops over time.” —Fawn Weaver

    “I wasn’t sure that love could survive everything we put it through, but you were. You were sure, you were always sure.” —Boy Meets World

    “Before we met, I was as lost as a person could be and yet you saw something in me that somehow gave me direction again.” —Nights in Rodanthe

    “Marriages, like a garden, take time to grow. But the harvest is rich unto those who patiently and tenderly care for the ground.” —Darlene Schacht

    “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance.” —Corinthians 13:7



Published in: on February 24, 2014 at 7:37 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Historic Charleston Venue…

Today I am in Charleston, SC for Jennifer and John’s wedding rehearsal. This wedding will take place tomorrow at St Luke Chapel. I love this historic venue.

After all these months of planning, I’m looking forward to meeting the Bride and Groom in person!

Published in: on February 21, 2014 at 4:12 PM  Leave a Comment  
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